from the mom
Friday and Saturday I had the opportunity to work for a couple of hours at the Washington Homeschoolers conference. I am no stranger to homeschooling conferences; they were my bread and butter a few years back. In those days I had no interest in checking out booths and the thought of looking at homeschooling curriculum made me shudder. Even when Ben was born and I started being asked: Are you going to homeschool? I quaked with fear at having to make educational choices for my son.
So it was interesting to be back at a convention and remember all those stereotypes. I was working at the Discovery Toys booth. There is a lot more action here than at a college booth. I loved hearing my colleagues ask "What ages are your children?" and get the response: "They range from 1 to 16. I have 9." I know better than to ask this question lightly.
There were the unusual homeschooled children: the 2 1/2 year old running around the hall without shoes; the little blonde boy with golden locks well past his shoulders who is growing his hair to donate to locks of love; the 7 year-olds that were babysitting several of their younger siblings (this gets really irritating when they make your very crowded booth their daycare facility). These are the exceptions and not the norm, but they stand out.
The moms caught my eye. First of all, I am one of them now. I can feel this change sweeping over me. I still don't want to look at the curriculum but I am consumed with finding what my child needs. So anything to do with speech and language ignites me. Recently I have started reading books on classical education. I play learning games with Ben nearly every day. I sell educational toys for Pete's sake. How did this happen?
But I will not be caught dead in a denim (or any other kind of) jumper. They might be comfortable and convenient but they look like flour sacks. They look better on some than others; but they don't make anyone look like they have spent more than two seconds on their appearance. They are a reminder that motherhood (for many) means sacrificing your body on its altar. I feel that way but I would prefer to keep it to myself as much as possible. I feel a little too close to the frumpy homeschooling mom stereotype. Seeing a lot of it made me start to look for alternates to replicate. I didn't have a camera but I caught some great moms who managed to have style and class without spending hours (that they don't have) on themselves. So I was inspired.... Off to Curves.
6 comments:
Ha! I so identify with this post!
I'm chuckling morbidly because I too relate. bah!
This comment has nothing to do w/your post but just a quickie to tell you that I got into grad school!!! WOOHOO!
I can relate too. I think I have a larger perspective now being a mom myself also. I still don't think jumpers can ever be justified but I understand more and have a better appreciation for how tiring the job is and how little time you have. It makes me appreciate women who seem to be able to pull off looking great and raising great kids. How do they do it? Do they have a maid?
One of the cool things about homeschooling, I think, IS picking out the best curriculum. Maybe I'm just a freak that way but certain curriculum makes me excited about taking my child's education into my own hands. :)
Rachelle,
This post is hysterical!
But you forgot the hairbows!
One thing I have noticed, having been a homeschool mom for nearly 23 years and still homeschooling, AND having nearly 9homeschooled grandbabies, is that you younger girls are so much more hip! When I go to conventions, I rarely see the dowdy, denim jumper/hairbow/tennies with a dress look anymore. Good for you!
The past 5 years I have hosted a homeschooling moms retreat where we always do "drama" and I had to have a reality check that what was funny 2 decades ago isn't the same as today. But, one thing is certain....the denim jumpers are guaranteed to get a laugh!
BTW, have you guys checked out www.ambleside.com?
Confession: I own a denim jumper. It's only for maternity, though. And it's really pretty OK looking. (I wore some very not-OK looking ones during my first pregnancy, but I hope never to be that broke again.)
Not with tennis shoes, though. Never, never, never, never. I don't even *own* any tennis shoes just so I will never inadvertently wear tennis shoes with a skirt.
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